Forgiveness, Ideally: the 7 steps

I discovered when studying Attachment Theory that forgiveness is one of the most important steps in a dance that occurs naturally in those with a secure relationship, and can be taught to others… giving them the hope of a relationship that is dependable. If well-choreographed, it could actually lead to enhanced trust, and the deepening… Continue Reading Forgiveness, Ideally: the 7 steps

Stress 101: Aromatherapy

The smell of baked bread. The scent of fresh oranges. The aroma of roses. We might be passing a bakery, slicing citrus in the kitchen, or strolling in a garden. When we take a moment to breath deeply, we can feel the pleasure, even a sense of ease, in our bodies. You may even take… Continue Reading Stress 101: Aromatherapy

Anxiety, Embodied: The Biology of “Mental” Illness

Anxiety is not a choice. It’s not a characterological weakness. It’s a kink in your biological software. Sadly, the mood-as-a-choice crowd has been growing in the last decade or two, making it worse. Now, not only do you stutter in a crowd, have difficulty making eye contact, or find your obsessive thoughts getting in the way of rational decision-making, but you understand these to be signs of failure on your part. The shame, then, of being incompetent, unfriendly and untrustworthy, stupid, and my favorite absurdity, “attention-seeking,” makes it almost impossible for you to simply work with your physical self to heal it, because even admitting your anxiety is embarrassing. Once you can get past your shame however, and simply allow yourself with guidance to gently, compassionately step into your anxious body, you have the power to bring flow to the log-jam of chronic anxiety. Continue Reading Anxiety, Embodied: The Biology of “Mental” Illness