I discovered when studying Attachment Theory that forgiveness is one of the most important steps in a dance that occurs naturally in those with a secure relationship, and can be taught to others… giving them the hope of a relationship that is dependable. If well-choreographed, it could actually lead to enhanced trust, and the deepening… Continue Reading Forgiveness, Ideally: the 7 steps
Surviving the Emotionally Immature Parent: Individual Coaching Package
I was born to two Adulting 101 dropouts! I know what it’s like not to be seen. To be invisible. Mom: “Make me feel better about myself”. Dad: “Who’d you say you were again?”. I was becoming a person that didn’t match the ideal child of my educator mother and psychiatrist (yup!) father…and so instead,… Continue Reading Surviving the Emotionally Immature Parent: Individual Coaching Package
Stop Numbing Out! How to move from wasting your time to enriching your life
Ok, I get it. Work is unfulfilling, exhausting, or all-consuming. All you want at the end of the day is go home, plop in front of your favorite electronic device, and lose yourself in binge-watching or scrolling. If a friend were to ask you how you’re feeling, and you chose to be honest, you’d probably… Continue Reading Stop Numbing Out! How to move from wasting your time to enriching your life
Stress 101: Aromatherapy
The smell of baked bread. The scent of fresh oranges. The aroma of roses. We might be passing a bakery, slicing citrus in the kitchen, or strolling in a garden. When we take a moment to breath deeply, we can feel the pleasure, even a sense of ease, in our bodies. You may even take… Continue Reading Stress 101: Aromatherapy
Change is Hard: On BLM and the Pandemic
Change is hard. Big change is really hard. We’ve had an onslaught of big change recently, and many of us are reeling. First, Covid hit, and we had to adjust to social distancing. Masks. Lost jobs. Lost opportunities for education, at least temporarily, though how temporarily is anyone’s guess. Isolation. Or having to live in… Continue Reading Change is Hard: On BLM and the Pandemic
Got the Covid Blues? Why Motivation is Particularly Hard Now
You’re in your first few months. So give yourself a break. Self-motivation isn’t easy. What is easy is listening to your depressed brain, which tells you you shouldn’t move. Continue Reading Got the Covid Blues? Why Motivation is Particularly Hard Now
Covid 19 changes (Corona Virus 19)
First, don’t panic. We humans have been here before, many times throughout our history. And yes, temporarily, we’ll have to do without some items. But the vast majority of us will pull through. Here are some changes I’m making in my practice that are intended to help with this: I’m still seeing clients who feel… Continue Reading Covid 19 changes (Corona Virus 19)
Too perfect? The case for imperfection
She’s scaling the stony edifice of a Colorado mountain, a rope tied to her belt linking her with the Outward Bound leader above, and I am marveling at her. Like a spider monkey, she’s reaching out with strong arms to find the holds above, extending her legs wide for the support that the earth has… Continue Reading Too perfect? The case for imperfection
Are You A Perturbaphobe? There’s Help For That!
A new illness is sweeping this country, and you may have it! Answer the following questions: When a friend starts telling you their troubles, do you get a glaze in your eyes and look for the nearest door? When you see a post that describes a social injustice, do you immediately move on to the… Continue Reading Are You A Perturbaphobe? There’s Help For That!
Anxiety, Embodied: The Biology of “Mental” Illness
Anxiety is not a choice. It’s not a characterological weakness. It’s a kink in your biological software. Sadly, the mood-as-a-choice crowd has been growing in the last decade or two, making it worse. Now, not only do you stutter in a crowd, have difficulty making eye contact, or find your obsessive thoughts getting in the way of rational decision-making, but you understand these to be signs of failure on your part. The shame, then, of being incompetent, unfriendly and untrustworthy, stupid, and my favorite absurdity, “attention-seeking,” makes it almost impossible for you to simply work with your physical self to heal it, because even admitting your anxiety is embarrassing. Once you can get past your shame however, and simply allow yourself with guidance to gently, compassionately step into your anxious body, you have the power to bring flow to the log-jam of chronic anxiety. Continue Reading Anxiety, Embodied: The Biology of “Mental” Illness